Guilt, Shame and Fear – Part 2

“Obeying negative legacy emotions is like feeding wild critters. They will take over and grow in power until we have unmanageable beasts trying to overwhelm us from inside our heads. We need to stop feeding the squirrels in our heads. We can start by refusing to listen or respond to them.” – Peter R. BregginContinue reading “Guilt, Shame and Fear – Part 2”

Guilt, Shame and Fear – Part 1

“Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough. Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.” – Dr. Brené Brown Four years of therapy and six therapists later, I found the three methodologies that haveContinue reading “Guilt, Shame and Fear – Part 1”

Internal Family Systems

“We are not one-dimensional, and our multiple dimensions are not static. Just as our bodies are made of many parts that form a dynamic, interwoven system that works together, so it is with our psyches. We are more awake, alive, and complex than we know.” ― Ralph De La Rosa Today I had one of theContinue reading “Internal Family Systems”

Judgements & Limitations

“Butterflies can’t see their wings. They can’t see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well.”― Naya Rivera Our brain is a very interesting organ. At times of distress, it is our savior, a guide when we have to make decisions, and our go-to place for reminiscing our pastContinue reading “Judgements & Limitations”

Unconditional Love

“Unconditional love is not so much about how we receive and endure each other, as it is about the deep vow to never, under any condition, stop bringing the flawed truth of who we are to each other.” – Mark Nepo “I love you” – these are probably the most overused phrases in today’s society. WeContinue reading “Unconditional Love”

Forgiveness

“All major religions carry basically the same message; that is love, compassion, and forgiveness the important thing that should be a part of their lives.” – Dalai Lama I was talking to a friend about how forgiveness and compassion are the keys to mending a relationship, letting go of past hurt, and moving on. WeContinue reading “Forgiveness”

I Am Worth It

“Most people give up finding their soul mate, and settle down to just having a flesh mate.”― Anthony Liccione Data-driven decision-making is one of the most sought-after skills these days. As a professional with a background in data, I love to get as many facts as I can get before making a call. I also loveContinue reading “I Am Worth It”

Radical Acceptance

“Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain.” – Tara Branch There is a sense of freedom in accepting things as they are. A sense of liberty isContinue reading “Radical Acceptance”

Bridging the Gap

“Like the physical, the psychical is not necessarily in reality what it appears to be”― Sigmund Freud Someone asked me recently what is the difference between Spirituality and Psychology. I took a pause and surprised myself with the answer, “I don’t think anyone can give you an absolute answer today. I can only tell you howContinue reading “Bridging the Gap”